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The goal of the Yoni massage is
not solely to achieve orgasm, although orgasm is often a pleasant and
welcome side effect. The goal can be as simple as to pleasure and
massage the Yoni. From this perspective both receiver and giver
can relax, and do not have to worry about achieving any particular goal.
When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and
more satisfying. It is also helpful for the giver to not expect anything
in return, but simply allow the receiver to enjoy the massage and to
relax into herself.
The Yoni Massage
Have the receiver lie on her back with
pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at
her partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her
hips. Her legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent
(pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals
clearly exposed for the massage. This position allows full access
to the Yoni and other parts of the body. Before contacting the
body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver should
remember to breathe deeply, slowly and with relaxation during the
entire process. The giver will gently remind the receiver to start
breathing again if the receiver stops or begins to take shallower
breaths. Deep breathing, not hyperventilating, is most important.
 Gently
massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to encourage the
receiver to relax and for the giver to prepare for touching her Yoni.
Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant on the mound of
the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips
and covers the outside of the Yoni. Begin gently massaging the
mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend time here and do not
rush. Relax and enjoy giving the massage.
Gently squeeze the outer lip between the
thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each
lip. Do the same to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your
time. It is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each other's
eyes as much as possible. The receiver should tell the giver if the
pressure, speed, depth, etc. need to be increased or decreased. Limit
your conversation and focus on the pleasurable sensation, too much
talking will diminish the effect.
The Crown Jewel (pearl)
The clitoris is an amazingly complex
structure, similar in function to the male's glans, but surprisingly -
up to four times more sensitive. The glans portion of the
clitoris holds 6,000 - 8,000 sensory nerve endings, more than any other
structure in the human body. This hypersensitive node has only one
purpose: pleasure. Nothing exceeds its ability to receive and
transmit sensations of touch, pressure or vibration. The glans are the
"crown jewel" of the clitoral system!
 Stroke
the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles. Gently
squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Do this as a massage and not
to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly become very
aroused but continue to encourage her to relax and breathe.
Slowly and with great care, insert the
middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni (there is a reason
for using the right hand as opposed to the left. It has to do with
polarity in Tantra).  Very
gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni with this
finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up, down and sideways. Vary
the depth, speed and pressure. It is important to remember that this is
a massage in which you are nurturing and relaxing the Yoni. With
your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move
the middle finger in a "come here" gesture or crook back
towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under
the pubic bone, behind the clitoris. This is the G-spot or in Tantra,
"the sacred spot". She may feel the need to urinate,
experience a little discomfort or most hopefully pleasure. Vary the
pressure, speed and pattern of movement. You can move side to side, back
and forth, or in circles with your middle finger. You can also insert
the finger that's between your middle finger and pinky.
Most women should have no problem and
will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time
and be very gentle.  You
may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well.
An option to try if the receiver wants it is to insert the pinky of the
right hand into her anus. [In Tantra, it is said that when your pinky is
gently massaging her anus, the next finger and middle finger in her Yoni
and your thumb on her clitoris, "You are holding one of the
mysteries of the universe in your hand."]
You can use your left hand to massage her
breasts, abdomen, or clitoris. If you massage the clitoris it's usually
best to use the thumb in an up down motion, with the rest of the hand
resting on, and massaging the mound.
The dual stimulation of right and left hands will provide much pleasure
for the receiver. Continue massaging, using varying speed, pressure and
motion, all the while continuing to breathe deeply and looking into each
other's eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just
keep breathing and be gentle. Some women have been sexually abused and
need to be healed. A giving, loving and patient partner can be of
immeasurable value to her. If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, and
continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in
intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave."
In ending the massage, slowly, gently,
and with respect, remove your hands. Allow her to relax and enjoy the
afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very
soothing as well. As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your
sex life will be greatly enriched and you will learn a great deal about
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